seminar seminar seminar bag, shoes, souvenir, accessories

accessory, bag and shoe making from scratch http://www.olx.com/iid-625589873 Check out that cool ad from OLX Free Classifieds

Are you in port Harcourt and its
environs and would love to learn
how to make bags, shoes, souvenirs,
throw pillows, belts and Ankara
accessories.
well Now is your chance as My team
and I will be having a 5 day seminar
on that effect from Monday may 19
to Friday 23 may. we are accepting
only the first 50 to register, its a one
of a kind seminar and shouldn't be
missed by any fashion lover and
aspiring entrepreneur.
Those who attends the seminar will
get special coaching from me and
My colleagues even after the
seminar..
seminar fee is just 30,000 naira and
I will make available all materials
that will be needed and the only
things participants should come
with are a pen, book and a very
good scissors.
Rivers state are you ready!!! YOU can call 08186270932 or 08181490986

Being happy in your relationship

for you to make someone happy you have to be happy. when your man is sad or angry its left to you to make the atmosphere light and happy. the happiness of your relationship should begin with you. after that you then look into the personality of your man . what he likes. what he doesnt like. who he really is. you can make him smile before you even know what is wrong.  before talking him out of that gloom. now this is for a particular situation. in general you have to communicate with your man. let him know how you feel and what you feel. let him know your plans. let him now how your day will be.  he will do same when he sees you doing it. dont be scared or shy to ask him questions. let him talk. listen to him. only when verbal communication is on the way thats when understanding sets in and when you can communicate through a touch or a smile or a lift of the eyebrow. all these little naunces really makes you comfortable and happy. knwing when not to nag . nagging drives a man from his home and from a relationship. instead of talking and talking and more talk.. just let him know that you dont like something and keep quiet. silence is more potent and speaks volumes and makes a man change his ways a little. learning to be expressive. kiss your man at anytime. anyplace. touch him. hug him.  that will make him know that you adore him. and he will worship the ground you walk. a good food is a way to a mans heart. when your man is happy with the food served on his table. he will be happy.  learn to be expressive during love making.. be active.. dont just lie down like a piece of log. learn his body. touch him and pleasure his the way he does to you. dont make lovemaking look like a chore or a duty. your man will be reluctant to leave home and be eager to come back home. be prayerful. always put your liofe and relationship to the god you serve. let happiness the the order of the day in your life and home and relationship.

Spicing up your home with foods 2.

spice up your home with eggs. eggs are commonly used as breakkfast in most homes with other foods. what you have to do is prepare differnt types  of eggs each time you want to give your family eggs for breakfast. it keeps them on their toes. it makes them eager to come see what you have for them. so lets prepare eggs. poached egg if tou can get litttle poached cups or a poached agg pan you can use little cupcake pan or just ur frying pan. put a little oil and more water in the pan and allow it to boil. then put a pinch of salt. you can add anyspice of your choice. break your egg at the top. make sure it doesnt scatter pour it into the boiling water and allow it cook. you can leave the yokwe half done and remove or you can flip the egg over to allow the yoke cook. fluffy egg..break ur egg into a bowl add your salt spices are optional.. add either milk or water into the egg. your pan with oil on fire. when its hot reduce the heat to very low and pour your eggs batter. fry on low heat. use your flat spoon on the sides to make sure it doesnt stick on the pan. add a little water or milk if u want it more fluffy. flip over to allow the other side fry.there are at least a dozen ways to prepare eggs. be creative in your kitchen.

VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE

variety they say is the spice of life. this is so true in every aspects of life. i am going to touch on the aspect of food and family. everyone gets bored when a certain  type of food is cooked everytime in the home. as a mother you should be ready to cook one food at least three types of ways. a good example of  such  is the legendary jollof rice. they are a whole lot of ways to prepare it. to help you spice up your home through your kitchen i will be here each day with at least two different ways to cook a particular food. stay in touch with me here and make your husband and kids smile after a good meal.

dealing with a stressed man

 
Once upon a time, my husband was down financially, He would be moody all the time and sometimes lost his temper over unnecessary things. His mood also got me feeling bad, sometimes i also get to lose my temper and shout back But it never helped instead things got worst. So i decided to try a new method, whenever He comes back with that moody face, after He takes his meal, i just sit with him and make him lie on my legs, i dont need to say a word, my legs became a comfortable pillow for him lol, i run my hands through his scalp sometimes He would just sleep off.. Your man might Not be like mine But find out what works for him, when a man is going through financial stress sometimes it draws him away from the family, He always becomes angry because He can no longer afford those beautiful things for his family, most times when this men are angry all you need to do is hug them, If He doesn’t want to tell you why his mood is down, don’t put pressure just remind him you are always available to talk to.

My husband lives abroad

Please hide my identity, and no
insults please. am married by the
grace of God with two(2) children.
my husband business was not
moving well, things became difficult
for us, so he decided to move his
business to one of the african
coutries. we both agreed for him to
travel; then i was pregnant for the
second baby. since he left, one
problem to another. he has become
a visitor to his children, he wil come
to nigeria ones in 4years. no money
to feed. when i ask for money, he
will say things are difficult. when i
cry, he would send 10,000 thousand
naria. i begged him for us to be with
him over there, he gave two reasons,
that 1: the place is very corrupt and
children will not take education
serious and 2: no money. one
problem or the other from his
family. so I decided to do something
to feed the children. i couldnt get a
job with my certificate, so a friend
helped me by giving me some of her
products to sell and make money in
the market place. with prayers and
hard work, i was able to move from
one step to another, from grass to
grace. 13yrs of marriage without a
man, I can proudly say my account
is loaded. God helped me and i
have my own beauty palour and
kiddies shop. the children were
happy and comfortable. they are in
boarding school now. he came back
3yrs ago and promised me he will
not stay more than two to 3months
again, to come stay with us 1month
and go back. we settled and he went
back to his base. its 3yrs now and
he has not come back. but he send
school fees for one while i pay the
other, because i made it so. I called
him in december last year, told him
my mind, that am human and I
need a man by my side, the
temptation is too much. that if I
dont see him by December, I will
tell my family to return the bride
price. he did not come and no
reason. January, he called that
Easter will be better for him to
come, and that he is coming back to
Nigeria finally. Now, my problem is I
met a man who we became good
friends (you understand). he is
divorced with 4children. I really
want the friendship to continue, but
am confused now, to continue
managing with my abroad husband
or divorce him to be with a man
with 4kids. please help me, what do
I do. thanks and God bless.

Boko haram

Beloved, following the slaughter of about 40kids in their dormitory by boko haram in yobe state, Nigeria, a mandate has been raised by Christians united against this terror. Let God ARISE! God has not changed, He is the same God who ambushed the enemies of Israel. #letGodarise is a divine instruction to call on God to wipe out Boko Haram! 10 minutes of prayer from 12 midnight to 12:10 am on Saturday 1st March. Wherever you are on friday night set your alarm and join at least a million voices and pray LET GOD ARISE! Tell everyone till a million voices arise.

Traditions and cultures in marriage

As an African, As a very proud nigerian.
I must say the beauty of our country are the cultures and traditions Lol most of them are really annoying and weird But traditions are traditions and we must Not forget our route.
Let me use the state filled with more traditions than I have ever heard or seen all My life.

Edo state
Edo state is one of the most cultured society in Nigeria, I mean like serious traditions for example in Edo If You cheat on your husband, the kids go sick and your husband goes poor and If solution is Not found on time it might lead to loss of life.
Some people don't believe it But it is real, so real.
Most of This traditions don't favor women at all, like the cheating tradition.
An Edo man can cheat and nothing will happen But If the wife cheats #TROUBLE why can't it be for both spouse?
So As a nigerian woman engaged to get married You must/should be close to your inlaws especially If You are getting married to someone from a different ethnic group.
its like a new school and If possible whenever You are with your inlaws take pen and paper. Okay I wanna ask You guys, how many of You(Not Edo) knows that in some parts of Edo state If a mortar(for pounding yam) is turned upside down, it is a taboo for the man of the house to eat food made with that mortar.

Your husband might Not tell You all the traditions probably to Not scare You off or He also don't know.
so You must Not only marry your husband But also marry his family, being close to the family has so many advantage. You might Not be close to all members of the family But at least be close to one or two.

Marriage in Africa does Not end in husband and wife, it also involves the family. When your husband is misbehaving and You feel You have talked to him enough; who do You run to? HIS FAMILY. They are the ones that could talk to him.
The prayer of every nigerian woman is Not just for God to give her a good man But also good inlaws because inlaws matters a lot when it comes to MARRIAGE

Well My poison are
1) always ask questions about the traditions and cultures in This new. place You are about to call your home

2) Be close to your inlaws, Good inlaws are hard just like Good husband and If You find one, be greatful and be close to them

explore your potentials

A post inspiredme to write this, it might Not go down well with a lot of people But I suggest If you can't say your opinion in a matured manner just don't bother reading.

Its a pity that in this days some women feel their destiny is tied to their husbands and that their husbands wealth is their wealth.
This women sacrifice their future career, brains and youthful exuberant all for a man, they believe they shouldn't be higher than their husbands, they believe they shouldn't have more qualifications or millions than their husbands.

first of all let me clear the impression that every woman richer than her husband is disrespectful. well that is a pure lie, a disrespectful woman is a disrespectful woman, money or no money. All This broke ass ghetto mamma are the ones that beats up their men. It all depends on their upbringing and believe.

Some women say God created women to push her husband forward and be the pillar for her husband, she should do nothing But be there for her man, she no longer exist as long as she is married, her identity should Now be that of Her husbands nothing else.

Yes you should be there for him, support him and be his confidant etc etc.
Now lets say My man walks into the room all gloomy: I ask, baby what's wrong
He says his goods has been ceased and He needs 10 million naira to get it released.

which of This 2 response is more helpful
A) I have 5million what are we going to do to raise the remains?
B) don't worry its going to be okay everyone passes through rough times.

hehehehe Women God created you to be his companion and it goes way beyond giving advice, children, sex and good food. You need to be up and doing, ndi igbo sI na akaraka Di iche (destinies are different). Your star might be brighter than that of your husband its Not your fault God has a reason.
If God wanted women to just sit at home and solve home problems then He wouldn't give a woman like Katherine yelick the brains she has.
There are no limitations to your success no matter your gender.
If God gave You the potentials then He needs You to use it for the world to see, He wants the world to benefit from what He has put in You, My God is no fool for making You smart.
#explore_Ur_potentials

He is cheating

I don't know what to do or say I Jus can't help it, I can't forgive My husband for cheating and lying to me, I try to let go But I just can't.

We have been married for 5 years and for 4 of those years He has been lying and cheating. I feel the cheating is even better than lying because even If you catch him red handed in his lies He will always lie to cover it, I have hated him, I can't get to love him again, I really want out of this marriage.

Some months back I asked him to give me money for a cream $10 He told me He had no money, He never has money for me, He leaves me for 2 weeks in the name of work yet He is always broke.

Some weeks back I found out He had over 20 thousand dollars in his account and uses a phone of $2000 which I didn't know about, He hides it all from me and the phone is for chatting and flirting.
I have asked him several times If He had another phone yet He has denied severally. I even saw the phone sometime ago in his car and He said a friend must have forgotten it.

How I found out all this things was when He was arrested on his way back from the club with his girlfriend and friends on a day He was supposedly to be out of town. infact lets Not talk about his friends because they are assholes. They come to My house, eat My food, praise me yet they know their friend is cheating sometimes I wish I poisoned their food.
So as I was saying when they were arrested one of the girls with them had a gun so the case was serious and He was asked to call his family hmmm and that was How all got exposed. Am sure there is more He is hiding But I don't want to know, I don't care If He is changed But He doesn't deserve me and am going for divorce. He is telling me He is repented and that He loves me But I can't forgive the lies or rather I can't forget them, when I see his face all I see is the face of a liar, I can't let it go If you can help me please do because the hatred am feeling for him is transferring to other men.

Me: this is the story of a girl that calls me her mentor, am speechless and shocked at the rate people lie and deceive the ones they claim they love, as you can see in this story it took just one day for all his lies to be exposed and that is How life is: they say everyday for the thief and one day for the owner of the house. Nothing can be hidden under the sun straighten your part My friend.
The best advice I can give to anyone in her position is leave before the hatred get worst and leads you to do something you will regret.

Life is too short to hang around people that cause you pain and disrespects you.
If He has changed Good But I strongly believe you need separation to find yourself again because I know the emotional trauma you are going through. Trust me I've been there.

Leave, rebuild yourself, renew your mind, you can't continue to live with anger, anger births pain and hate, life is beautiful and so are you.
you deserve the best

How to know He loves You

signs that He lovvvveeeesssss You

1) He supports and compromise: He supports your dreams, He can suspend some things He is doing to be with You at that audition, He can even buy You the form even though He hates acting, He knows You love diet coke and He prefers fanta so He would take half of his fanta off the fridge and add your diet coke.

2) He thinks about You: I know You are thinking How am I supposed to know He thinks about me But the signs are obvious, He sends You messages sometimes naughty messages, smiley faces, jokes and etc. He looks for the little excuses to talk with You.

3)The way He looks at You: The eyes holds many secrets of the heart, when You are talking He gets lost in your eyes or your smiles, He sits quietly and watch You talk, what You are saying is probably Not interesting But oh well when a man loves a woman ____________

4)He cares: This is the most obvious sign, You both May be quarreling and then something happens to You, He suddenly forgets He was ever angry and rush to you. Are You okay? what should I do to help? what's wrong?

5)He wants You to meet his friends and family: He can't keep his lips sealed, He wants to introduce You to the most important people in his life, most ladies mis read This, they believe when a man introduces You to his family He wants to marry You, :-) no darling Not necessarily sometimes its a way to show You How important You have become to him, He might be in love with You But has no marriage  plan yet

6)He says "I love You" : You probably don't believe This one based on the way those 3 words are misused But the truth is, a man that is truly in love can't hide his feelings forever. I love You/am in love with You are the hardest words to say when You really mean it, so the day He finally says those words You better believe it sister.

Now You know, the funny things about This signs is that Now the players knows we know the signs, so they come up with same trick to cajole a girl into falling for them But Not to worry I will also make a post on How to spot the players.

The African mind

When the husband cheats they point to the wife oh she wasn't doing a good job thats why

when the husband beats the wife they point to the wife ,oh she probably annoyed him

Now they forget that charity begins at home. The parents forget that their son is living their legacy, they gave him all the go ahead He needed, they made him feel its the right thing to do.
No no the wife did nothing, his parents/guardian did all the training, the wife has no hand in it.
Am sick of hearing people say its her fault instead of its his fault or their fault when it comes to marriage.
Every individual is responsible for their actions so If there is another person to hold then its the offender himself.

What most ladies are suffering today in their marriage are the fault of our mothers and grand mothers, they let the man batter them and they stayed, their little kids watched mommy and daddy fight or rather watched mommy got beaten by daddy.
They saw daddy flirt with women and even brought home other women and mommy sat n watched,
Oh its a man's world she said.

She has forgotten that You should train up a child in the way He should grow. You can't teach a boy How to steal all his childhood and expect him to grow into an honest man.

women of this generation lets Not make the mistakes our parents made, If He is Not changing and repenting take your kids out, cheating, battering, lying and deceit are hereditary, You can't afford to bring up your child that way.

A few tips If you are Running out of things to say in your long distance relationship

long distance relationship can be really hard especially when it comes to conversations, If they were physically present then maybe the look on your face could do the talking. At the start of your long distance relationship you talked for an hour on phone without running out of topics, it was so much fun then suddenly those 1hour calls turned to 30mins, then 10mins, 1minute and before you realised it you no longer want to call or pick their calls because it has become to predictable. Well Thank God you came across this because here are some proven tips to create a long and good conversation with Not just your lover But with anyone.

1) LISTEN : when you listen you could create many topics from what your partner is saying even with the simplest and most cliche answers ..   for example __
You: baby what did you eat this morning ?
Him: I had tea and bread
You: what kind of bread?
Him: white bread
You: really you prefer white bread or that was the only kind of bread available?
from there topics will arise, it might Not be about the bread maybe about the milk He used and so on and so forth. sounds silly right? But with this topic you can end up talking about favourite foods, recipes, eating healthy and many more food related topics.
This way you are also getting to know each other better. This can also relate to other aspects of life like why He prefers driving to a long  instead of taking the train.. This can birth other topics like cars, roads, government and politics

2) TEAM WORK: For you to have a conversation or dialogue 2 people should be involved. Relationship is just like a game of football ,each team needs its complete 11 players to function perfectly or in This case the 2players.
You can't be the only one talking and asking all the questions. If you notice your partner is letting you do the talking then kindly ask them to get on board and If they ain't in the right mood to talk then you could call back.
Being the only one contributing is a big conversation killer.

3)TRY NEW THINGS: If you find yourself having the same kind of conversation everyday then maybe its because you do the same thing everyday, try something new, a new experience would bring a new conversational topic. Even as a person having same routine and schedule everyday  could get boring its Not good to be too predictable.

4)PREPARATION: Writting down what you want to say could be helpful, Lol when I told a friend this she said "am I giving a presidential speech or am talking to My boyfriend"
Writting it down doesn't necessarily mean you will use it sometimes the plans change and we just naturally go with the flow. When you write something down even If you are Not with the paper it sometimes sticks to your brain especially If you were thinking about it before Writting it, so it will be a good reminder If you had an important subject you wanted to discuss

5)TAKE A LITTLE BREAK: If all this ain't working Maybe for some days don't call or avoid their calls, you could send short messages indicating you are busy and little I love you messages here and there.
The experience from those days you didn't talk on phone would make a long conversation plus you both will be anxious to talk to each other :-) it will be like talking to an old friend for the first time in years Hahahaha Yes when you miss someone you love even for  some days it feels like months. Once in a while we need to give space for your partner to miss you it makes the heart grow fonder

Goodluck

How to survive heart attack when alone

HOW TO SURVIVE A HEART ATTACK WHEN ALONE
Since many people are alone when they suffer a heart attack, without help,the person whose heart is beating improperly and who begins to feel faint, has only about 10 seconds left before losing consciousness. However,these victims can help themselves by
coughing repeatedly and very vigorously. A deep breath should be taken before each cough, and the
cough must be deep and prolonged, as when producing sputum from deep inside the chest. A breath and a cough must be repeated about every two seconds without let-up until help arrives, or until the heart is felt to be beating normally again. Deep breaths get oxygen into the lungs and coughing movements squeeze the heart and keep the blood circulating. The squeezing pressure on the heart also helps it regain normal rhythm. In this way, heart attack victims can get to a hospital.

Gay law in Nigeria

So i made a post on My facebook page on how i dont support This new law that any gay  caught would spend 14 years in jail and i almost got murdered with insults.

But that wont stop Me from saying What i feel the picture attached to This is a chat from one jobless guy with another guy on facebook. The law hasn't even been up to a month and people are already planning blackmail with it. This law can't be effective in This country because even the law enforcers are too corrupt to care, a Good bribe will shut them up real good.
There would be set ups, blackmails, deceit and more corruption and am sure no gay will go to jail But the innocent ones will suffer.
I asked how can you tell If someone is a lesbian/gay or not and no one had a Good answer. There is no way to tell If someone is an homosexual or Not some girls loves acting like men and some men loves acting like girls, it has nothing to do with their sexuality.
So in This case where you cant tell for sure an ordinary accusation is good enough to land someone in jail, Now is that fair?
What is the governments business with What people do with their body? In a country where terrorism has left most of the citizens homeless, in a country where there are many jobless people that don't mind doing anything just for a little change. Is it homosexuality that should be the concern of the government?
when there are more pressing issues to deal with.
Am Not supporting gays, am a Christian and i know same sex marriage is a sin just as i know pre marital sex, lies, hate, anger and jealousy are sins.
I also know Christ has taught us Not to discriminate instead we should convert the sinners.
The same Christ has told us Not to judge But love.
People Say Nigeria has culture and the president signed that proposal because of our culture yet why do i find that hard to believe? Election is near, He has been doing a bad job so far, so banning of homosexuals sounds like the perfect plan to get votes from the so called fake Christians in the country.

Am Not dissing anyone But am pained because i know many people are going to fall victims. When the anti prostitution law was banned years back. I remember in 2009 on My way back from a friends place at ikeja, some police men approached me and started questioning me, there was no suspicious movements from me i was Just walking like every other person that night and it wasnt even late it was just 8pm, i had no bag with me.
They asked What i was doing and many other questions which i gave them answers to But still i was arrested for absolutely nothing. When i entered the bus i saw other girls also arrested, the police asked us to bring 1500 naira each for them to release us. I didnt even have 300 on me Not to talk of 1500.
Does it mean that one cant move freely again? I was so angry But What could i do? After they patrolled with us in the bus that night, they took us to the station some of the girls paid the money and was set free.
It was only remaining 4 of us  they threatened to take us to headquarters If we dont cooperate. What did i do and why should i cooperate? If i had money i would had even paid But i was penniless.
We slept there that night and in the morning 4 of the police men called us out and said If we could have sex with them they would let us go because prostitution = 5 years in jail. WTF!!! We started begging them to let us go that we would even come back to pay our bail fee, If only i had a phone i would had called home. While we were arguing the senior officer came she was a female, she asked What happened and we individually explained, she immediately asked them to release us. Now lets say she didnt come we would had slept with those police men somehow, no doubt because we feared the term "jail" even If we were innocent ..

What sort of environment are our government creating for us? should we flee from our country? Is the prostitution law working? How many prostitutes are in jail? 
This is Now a new way to make money in Nigeria and people will exploit it to the fullest.
Thank you.

Who am i married to?

Some people always wonder why dating was fun and marriage has been hell. In fact they don't know who they are married to.

There is only one reason why the person you are married to is Not the person you dated and that reason is PRETENCE
He/she was either pretending or you were too busy falling in love that you never cared about those  bad characters of his/her so you just pretended everything was perfect.
People dont just wake up one morning and change dear. It has either been that way or it has been happening gradually But you didn't notice.

Ive seen couples keep secrets, live double life, constantly lie and pretend.
Why should there be pretence when you are both supposed to walk in agreement and with one mind?. Individually things might be going well But together things can never go well when there is pretence.

Accepted you were both raised differently so you think differently But there is a reason why DATING & COURTING exist 
These are the times you need to know who you are with, become friends and become one.
Marriage is just like dating, only that This time its forever.

The foundation of your marriage is built during the process of dating and whatever foundation you build then is what will stay, whatever character you exhibit then, is what will be accepted all through the marriage and If you were pretending during dating do you think you can pretend all the days of your life?

Most people don't pretend during dating, they show you who they are.
They give the signs that they will cheat, the signs are there that they will beat you, the signs are there that they have fowl tongues, the signs are there that they are lazy But you still choose to pretend and ignore the signs. Now you are married and wondering who the hell am i married to?

People always say marry your best friend But a lot of us ignore this advice.
Your best friend is the one that knows all the crazy stuffs about you.
Your best friend is the one that knows how you love to live your life
Your best friend knows and understand you more than your parents
Your best friend can stand and swear or defend you any day any time because they know What you can and can't do.

Now wouldn't life be easier If the person you are to spend forever with is the best friend?

Some women are scared to talk to their husbands ehnn, mind you there is a difference between fear and respect. When the husband is Not  home they are fun, lively, playful and cheerful But the moment the bell rings and daddy is home she becomes dead silent, all you hear is Yes sir, Yes sir, Yes sir. Are you talking to your father or your husband? No conversation because she is probably scared that she might say something that would upset him. Why would you spend forever with someone you cant be real with?

Some men the moment they get to the gate, they start deleting messages, pictures and etc Not because they are cheating oo probably because they just love chatting and being naughty which is something they would love to do with their wife But their Mrs thinks all those things are nonsense.

There are women whom their spouse beats up on daily basis and the only way they stay happy is by creating an imaginary world where everything is perfect and they have prince charming for a husband. That imaginary world might Not just be on their mind it might be also on social media. They probably have heard this  saying ""you are the product of thoughts" so they need to think positive...  smh face reality, dont pretend its perfect see it as it is. Then ask yourself ""why am i with somebody that i need to pretend with just to be happy?""

For the still single ones, marriage is a beautiful thing, forget all the negativity you have been hearing, fact is all marriage has their ups and downs. Before deciding to settle with someone make sure you leave no stone un turned, ignore no action either when they are angry or happy, be vigilant, even for the pretender once in a while they slip and show their true characters.

:-) :-* stay happy

Let It Go

People will tell you to forgive, forgive, forgive But its Not as easy as it sounds.

I love hammering on the topic of forgiveness because it is essential and important to forgive, that is If you want to be happy.
Holding unto a grudge is painful and ironically the pains are Not for the offender they are for you.
  Its like a burden and as years goes by it gets heavier, you feel more anger and hatred. You deserve to be happy because you are awesome.
Its not your fault that they couldn't see your worth and went ahead to betray you.
They probably don't deserve your forgiveness But you deserve happiness.
Holding unto a grudge is exhausting, the more you hold unto it the more painful it is, you cant be comfortable .
    
   PICTURE THIS
You have been stucked in a horrible traffic for hours and you are so pressed, you need to use the toilet else you might as well go in your pants, your legs are shaky, you are sweating, you cant move, you feel like crying because its that bad, you are even considering leaving your car in the traffic and look for the next available toilet to use. Then luckily the the cars start moving, the jam is clearing up, you cant hold it in or wait till you get to your destination so you quickly park the car and raced into the nearest supermarket to use their toilet, you get in the toilet, hurriedly removed your pants and as you sit on the the potty :-D and with a little push it was like an explosion, bammmm!! your heart is racing, you feel like sleeping, you are so weak and relieved, you dont want to stand up, the shaky legs are gone, the discomfort is gone, its like a heavy load has been lifted off your body and someone just poured cold water on you, oh peace at last halleluyah, Hahahaha.

My point is Grudge are like shits If you don't hit the toilet and push it all out now, you will always be uncomfortable.
If you want to be uncomfortable all your life its your choice But If you want to feel that awesome kind of peace, relief and joy then you know what to do.

Life is beautiful But you cant enjoy life or see the beauty of life when you go about carrying grudge, hurts and anger.
:-* LET IT GO!!!!!

My husband talks to me without respect

   Some men are fund of flaunting their male ego on their wife, reasons could be as follows

1) He is the only source of income in the home - some men will always respect their wife  whether she brings food to the table or Not, actually they can even ask their wife to stay home and take care of the kids because that is a full time job. While other men will see her as a lazy woman. He goes to work everyday, he has seen top working class married women that can even bring/win contracts for their husband's But his own wife sits at home all day and do nothing because to this kind of men taking care of the home is as easy as ABC

2) He was raised in a home where his father always disrespect his mother - charity begins at home right? The first school of a child is his home and the first teachers are his parents. I dont need to stretch the explanation because i always talk about how parents should live an exemplary lifestyle. Train up a child in the way He should grow and when He grows he will Not depart from it.

3) He thinks she is of less importance - Where & how some men get their orientation about being husbands always baffle me. Hahahaha they think being a husband is finally an opportunity to boss someone around like their parents has been doing to them all over the years or like their boss does everyday at the office lmao . some could be getting the ideas from their friends, your thinking, "My husband was so kind and respectful in the earlier stage and suddenly He has changed What happened?", well like the saying goes "evil communication corrupts Good manners"

             HUSBANDS

Being the head of a family is about being a leader Not a ruler, You lead in the right part and your wife will follow its Not an opportunity to flex your muscle or male hormones. Now i want You to listen to me and delete all those orientation from your memory that has caused your wife pain for so long.
Being the head of the family is a serious and very important job
It's about protecting your family, You need to be a security officer now You have a family and You  probably should learn some karate because you will need to do a little butt kicking here and there..

Being the head of the family is Not just about bringing the money its also about being physically, emotionally and spiritually present and active, your family needs to know You care, You might think they know already But they dont. 
Your wife is just as important as You are in the family, she is the home maker and without her efforts there probably wouldn't be a home so cherish her

     WIVES
You are thinking how do i get this man to start respecting and valuing me well stop thinking and start acting.
People treat You the way You allow them to treat You, they treat You the way You treat yourself. What is your reaction when He disrespects you, do you sit and cry? Do You yell at him to stop? Well If You do any of these then You should stop and follow this steps because it has worked for several people.

1) figure the reason for his actions

2) Decide What You want to do and things You want to change in your personal life

3) Make a list of What You want to change in that marriage.

4) write everything down so You dont forget any detail.

5) Select a Good day/time to have a conversation with him. It might be on a weekend He wont go to work or on a weekday evening when He is back from work, had his dinner and taken his shower

6) Get a grip on your emotions "today You wont cry or get angry, You are going to sit and have a conversation like a matured adult" If You cannot control yourself and act matured then you cant possibly expect someone to take You seriously.

7) remember dont get angry remain calm. When You are both sitted tell him how You love him and want the best for your home, then calmly say how You feel, let it all out, everything You have written pour it all out.
When You are talking He should quietly listen and when He is talking also listen quietly so there wont be tantrums everywhere, when everyone is talking - no one is talking.

Have a great day

little help, big damage

THE LITTLE HELP THAT MIGHT CAUSE BIG DAMAGES

There are so many little things that can that can cause big damages to your child's future and you wont even know you are doing them harm than good.

DOING YOUR CHILD'S SCHOOL ASSIGNMENT

Most parents are fond of doing their child’s school work, dont worry about your assignment junior go and sleep. I dont know if it is because they are too lazy to teach and direct the child on how to go about it or it is because they believe its stressful for the children, their reasons I dont know and I dont care but it is wrong. Some parents say they are too busy and stressed to do homework with their child so that’s why they just do the work when alone and free to avoid more stress, I understand that excuse but I believe its better to hire a home tutor to help than do it yourself.

In the long run doing your child’s homework just might cause damage in a way you never taught was possible, because this child probably didn’t understand what his teacher explained in class but by the time he wakes up in the morning his assignment is done, he goes to school, submit the paper and gets an A even if he didn’t understand the work. No worries right? After all he is getting A's that’s all that matters.

HE STARTS SEEING THINGS DIFFERENTLY

why should he do his work? If mom or dad cant do it anymore then he can simply slide his pocket money or food to the nerdy kid to do his homework. Life is so much better when you reap without sowing, he can even start paying the nerdy kid in class to help him during exams. He can go through life believing he could just pay someone, sleep, wake up and bammm his work is done. Is this the kind of life you want for your child? You do know that he will not go far in life if he lives his life this way. He might has excellent results but 0 IQ. Who would you blame?

You are probably wondering if it is possible for doing a mere homework for your child cause this much damage, wonder no more because it truly can, train your child the way he should grow and when he grows he will not depart from it. When you train a child in the way of cheating and reaping where he did not sow then that is the way he will grow

Children looks up to us(parents) as their idols, we should set good examples for this children. Teachers in school will try but our kids spends more time at home than in school, dont leave all the academic work to the teachers, you should tutor them if you understand the homework and if you dont understand you call their class teacher to explain or better still send them back to school with the homework undone the next day with a note attached, so the class teacher can explain further for them to understand.

Success is not just about the cars, house and bank accounts, actually to me success is when my child’s teacher calls me to tell me my child is doing a good job at school or when a stranger tells me ''your child is well mannered''. Those are what I call success.

please do not copy my blog contents without permission

Tu face and Annie idibia princess number 2

Tu face and Annie idibia has welcomed their second baby girl on the 3rd of January.

Annie idibia has been out of the country since November with her daughter Isabella and her mother. Her manager confirmed the arrival of the new baby via twitter ..

Welcome princess

Should married women work in the co-operate world?

Yes But just Not at the early stage of marriage

This is a sensitive issue and should be handled with total honesty, most people have gotten their homes ruined with This

People are taking feminism the wrong way, when God created Adam He gave him the job of taking care of every other thing outside, naming the animals, working and all But when He created eve it was for one purpose, to be a companion to Adam and take care of him. To take care of everything that happens inside the home.

Dont get me wrong am Not saying because you are married you shouldnt work. What am saying is as a wife and a mother your family needs your attention especially at the early stages, you are the home maker. Your absence can break your home, daddy can travel for 1 month and the kids wont feel it as long as He provides for the home But If mommy goes out for a full 24hour the home will be a mess, i know there are nannies, But a nanny can never fill the space of a mother or a wife.

As a married woman i believe being self employed is the best way to go that way you have time for your family, you come back home whenever you want, But these are things you can never do As a working class woman. You go to work by 7am and close by 6pm, lets Not talk about the traffic, in a terrible traffic you might get home by 9pm and then the kids are already in bed and your husband had probably eaten in a restaurant or the meal the maid prepared.
This is Not the right way to make a home, you cant have a happy home This way, even If you need to work in the co operate world then it should be at a later stage of your marriage where the kids are grown and can handle themselves and you know you have nothing much to worry about, your spouse will understand then that they need to support you. some women might be putting on a charade that being a working class doesn't affect their marriage But i can assure you that is a big lie.

In the co operate world there are lots of competitions, everyone wants to be the best and desperation can get the better part of you to the worst to get a certain position or to win a certain contract Not minding you are married. Some high profile business men dont care If your married, If you want to be the one to get the contract for your company then you gotta be the one to rub his pot belly for at least an hour.

But at the end of the day This is just my opinion so What do you think ?

Why blame the mistress??

  okay some women are fond of blaming the mistress for the affair instead of directing all the blames to the one that kept playing with the emotion of 2 women.

Most of this mistress dont even have feelings for the husbands all they are concerned about is the money and fun they are having in the relationship
They never walked up to your husband, understand that He did that on his own, He told them intimate things, He booked the hotel rooms, He was the one doing the spending. Accepted she could had said no But who told you she didnt? Do you know how many times He kept pressuring her? Do you kNow the last time she had a man care for her like that?
I know being cheated on hurts especially when you know He did  things He had never done for you to her
Am Not supporting the mistress in any way But If there is anyone that needs to be slapped around then its the man in the middle, He is the one that betrayed you and your marital vows, He could had talked to you If He wasn't feeling okay with the way things were going in the home But no He didn't
Its Not her fault If anything then its you and your husbands fault. It takes 2 to make and break a relationship so If you want to work on your home then work on it, dont waste energy on things that dont matter.

If He is just a boyfriend no need to get angry at the other woman or get into a fight with her, what you both need is to spank him together, He made the same promises to her As He made to you, He probably forwarded the same romantic love messages to her too. She was deceived just like you were, she is hurting just like you are. If there is a problem that need fixing then its the man in the middle

His gay experience

  Mike calls me to his office, i reluctantly stood up from my desk and walked so sluggish. I was angry because i have been looking for sponsor for my script But all my efforts were in vain, it was a powerful story and well scripted, i expected it to get me more money

as i was deeply lost in taught i heard my name again, simeon simeon hurry up, so i tried picking up my pace, "hello sir i said to Mike..
Mike couldn't help But noticed how sad i was so He asked me what happened and i explained the whole situation. He said i was a nice guy so He would help me, He had couple of friends in the entertainment industry..
why He called me? i didnt care anymore He probably told me But i didnt listen all i was calculating was how much i would sell the script, mike asked me to come later that night by 8pm because his director friend was coming around

i was so excited all i could do was look at the clock, i didnt want to eat anything and once it was 7:30 i left the house for mike's place, i got there by 5minutes past 8.

"knock knock" i said , He came and opened the door, He was drinking with his friend. mike introduced i and his friend and we got talking
some minutes later mike went up to his room and while He was there his friend(male) started telling me how handsome i was, it was a little bit awkward coming from a guy But the guy talks Good business so i had to suck it up. Not less than 5mins mike went up He came back downstairs with just his underwear, He said i should come up He had something to show me, this was gettin real weird and awkward But yet again i needed the money.
as i followed him to his room, there was some red petals on the bed, like the romantic ones couples use on their first wedding night.
       mike asked me to sit on the bed and i did, He started telling me how cute i was and all, He asked me to remove my shirt so He would feel my muscle and then it hits me HE'S GAY

omg my anus!!! was the first taught that came to mind. am Not gay and i don't know what made him think i was But i didnt want to let him know the obvious (that i was about to run away)
so i asked him If He could let me go finish my drink downstair first before coming back to the bedroom, i told him i would perform better when am tipsy. There are 2 heavily built men in the house and am so Not strong enough to fight them both so i had to be creative

when i got downstair Mr director was also only on his underwear and i didnt know when i shouted mo darun (am in trouble).
Mr director asked mike to put on the music and He did put in a yanni song(jazz)
they both got up and started slow dancing,
omg am dead, am finished, kept goin through my mind, my heart was beating so fast and audible.

while they were dancing i tried to slowly escape but i couldn't because it was like they were taking turns on who will keep their eyes on me. it was horrible...

i knew i was stuck in this situation then i had an idea, i remember almost all kitchens have back doors so If i could get an excuse to go to the kitchen then am Good. i know i had to act fast and while all those million taughts were going through my head i started praying, something i haven't  done in years and little tears started dropping from my eyes.

mike noticed the tears and He asked me what happened,

ME: "tears of joy mike am so happy, i didnt know there were gays like me in this country its such an awesome feeling getting to meet people like you"

awww Mr director said then why are you sitting there come join us, lets dance and be merry.

i had impregnated over 6girls in the past, i mis treat, use and dumped girls.. I prayed harder for forgiveness and God intervention, If i get through this am going to settle down and start treating girls better i promised God .

As i stood up i remembered the kitchen idea so i told him to show me his kitchen cos i was hungry and He pointed towards the direction of his kitchen and lo and behold As i stepped into the kitchen there was an open back door, my script was still in the house and so was my shoe, shirt But who cares??? I ran out of there As fast As my legs could go.

you want to know what happened next at the office? If Yes comment

women MARRIAGE is Not the ultimate

This marriage subject has been a controversial one over the years, unmarried women has been taunted and its Not like the married ones are all happy, its like a taboo when a woman is unmarried, i mean some parents and people around us has literally brought us and groomed us only for marriage nothing else

over the years women have been taught to dream little because If they dream too big, they might Not see a man to get married But my reply to that is WHO CARES?? am going to dream as big as i can and work my butts off to achieve those dreams and whatever low self esteemed man that cant deal with it should take a long walk

over the years parents have stopped their female children from going to higher institution because at the end of the day they will end in a man's house so education is useless for the female child.
and here is my reply to that, when a male child starts his own family, He concentrates on his wife and kids, the parents becomes a minor issue But when a girl child gets married she never stops taking care of her parents Now If she is uneducated and has no job while married to an alcoholic, are you expecting her to take care of her parents still ??

one of the best country in the world (England) is led by a woman.. women are naturally caring, they are very protective of their own and the earlier everyone realise that our caring and protective nature should be used on a bigger platform the better for us.. Our talents and voices is Not meant to be heard only on small scales, dont let people kill your dreams, turn deaf ears to the voice of critics, you matter just as much as any man out there..

;-)