Traditions and cultures in marriage

As an African, As a very proud nigerian.
I must say the beauty of our country are the cultures and traditions Lol most of them are really annoying and weird But traditions are traditions and we must Not forget our route.
Let me use the state filled with more traditions than I have ever heard or seen all My life.

Edo state
Edo state is one of the most cultured society in Nigeria, I mean like serious traditions for example in Edo If You cheat on your husband, the kids go sick and your husband goes poor and If solution is Not found on time it might lead to loss of life.
Some people don't believe it But it is real, so real.
Most of This traditions don't favor women at all, like the cheating tradition.
An Edo man can cheat and nothing will happen But If the wife cheats #TROUBLE why can't it be for both spouse?
So As a nigerian woman engaged to get married You must/should be close to your inlaws especially If You are getting married to someone from a different ethnic group.
its like a new school and If possible whenever You are with your inlaws take pen and paper. Okay I wanna ask You guys, how many of You(Not Edo) knows that in some parts of Edo state If a mortar(for pounding yam) is turned upside down, it is a taboo for the man of the house to eat food made with that mortar.

Your husband might Not tell You all the traditions probably to Not scare You off or He also don't know.
so You must Not only marry your husband But also marry his family, being close to the family has so many advantage. You might Not be close to all members of the family But at least be close to one or two.

Marriage in Africa does Not end in husband and wife, it also involves the family. When your husband is misbehaving and You feel You have talked to him enough; who do You run to? HIS FAMILY. They are the ones that could talk to him.
The prayer of every nigerian woman is Not just for God to give her a good man But also good inlaws because inlaws matters a lot when it comes to MARRIAGE

Well My poison are
1) always ask questions about the traditions and cultures in This new. place You are about to call your home

2) Be close to your inlaws, Good inlaws are hard just like Good husband and If You find one, be greatful and be close to them