long distance relationship can be really hard especially when it comes to conversations, If they were physically present then maybe the look on your face could do the talking. At the start of your long distance relationship you talked for an hour on phone without running out of topics, it was so much fun then suddenly those 1hour calls turned to 30mins, then 10mins, 1minute and before you realised it you no longer want to call or pick their calls because it has become to predictable. Well Thank God you came across this because here are some proven tips to create a long and good conversation with Not just your lover But with anyone.
1) LISTEN : when you listen you could create many topics from what your partner is saying even with the simplest and most cliche answers .. for example __
You: baby what did you eat this morning ?
Him: I had tea and bread
You: what kind of bread?
Him: white bread
You: really you prefer white bread or that was the only kind of bread available?
from there topics will arise, it might Not be about the bread maybe about the milk He used and so on and so forth. sounds silly right? But with this topic you can end up talking about favourite foods, recipes, eating healthy and many more food related topics.
This way you are also getting to know each other better. This can also relate to other aspects of life like why He prefers driving to a long instead of taking the train.. This can birth other topics like cars, roads, government and politics
2) TEAM WORK: For you to have a conversation or dialogue 2 people should be involved. Relationship is just like a game of football ,each team needs its complete 11 players to function perfectly or in This case the 2players.
You can't be the only one talking and asking all the questions. If you notice your partner is letting you do the talking then kindly ask them to get on board and If they ain't in the right mood to talk then you could call back.
Being the only one contributing is a big conversation killer.
3)TRY NEW THINGS: If you find yourself having the same kind of conversation everyday then maybe its because you do the same thing everyday, try something new, a new experience would bring a new conversational topic. Even as a person having same routine and schedule everyday could get boring its Not good to be too predictable.
4)PREPARATION: Writting down what you want to say could be helpful, Lol when I told a friend this she said "am I giving a presidential speech or am talking to My boyfriend"
Writting it down doesn't necessarily mean you will use it sometimes the plans change and we just naturally go with the flow. When you write something down even If you are Not with the paper it sometimes sticks to your brain especially If you were thinking about it before Writting it, so it will be a good reminder If you had an important subject you wanted to discuss
5)TAKE A LITTLE BREAK: If all this ain't working Maybe for some days don't call or avoid their calls, you could send short messages indicating you are busy and little I love you messages here and there.
The experience from those days you didn't talk on phone would make a long conversation plus you both will be anxious to talk to each other :-) it will be like talking to an old friend for the first time in years Hahahaha Yes when you miss someone you love even for some days it feels like months. Once in a while we need to give space for your partner to miss you it makes the heart grow fonder
Goodluck
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