Some men are fund of flaunting their male ego on their wife, reasons could be as follows
1) He is the only source of income in the home - some men will always respect their wife whether she brings food to the table or Not, actually they can even ask their wife to stay home and take care of the kids because that is a full time job. While other men will see her as a lazy woman. He goes to work everyday, he has seen top working class married women that can even bring/win contracts for their husband's But his own wife sits at home all day and do nothing because to this kind of men taking care of the home is as easy as ABC
2) He was raised in a home where his father always disrespect his mother - charity begins at home right? The first school of a child is his home and the first teachers are his parents. I dont need to stretch the explanation because i always talk about how parents should live an exemplary lifestyle. Train up a child in the way He should grow and when He grows he will Not depart from it.
3) He thinks she is of less importance - Where & how some men get their orientation about being husbands always baffle me. Hahahaha they think being a husband is finally an opportunity to boss someone around like their parents has been doing to them all over the years or like their boss does everyday at the office lmao . some could be getting the ideas from their friends, your thinking, "My husband was so kind and respectful in the earlier stage and suddenly He has changed What happened?", well like the saying goes "evil communication corrupts Good manners"
HUSBANDS
Being the head of a family is about being a leader Not a ruler, You lead in the right part and your wife will follow its Not an opportunity to flex your muscle or male hormones. Now i want You to listen to me and delete all those orientation from your memory that has caused your wife pain for so long.
Being the head of the family is a serious and very important job
It's about protecting your family, You need to be a security officer now You have a family and You probably should learn some karate because you will need to do a little butt kicking here and there..
Being the head of the family is Not just about bringing the money its also about being physically, emotionally and spiritually present and active, your family needs to know You care, You might think they know already But they dont.
Your wife is just as important as You are in the family, she is the home maker and without her efforts there probably wouldn't be a home so cherish her
WIVES
You are thinking how do i get this man to start respecting and valuing me well stop thinking and start acting.
People treat You the way You allow them to treat You, they treat You the way You treat yourself. What is your reaction when He disrespects you, do you sit and cry? Do You yell at him to stop? Well If You do any of these then You should stop and follow this steps because it has worked for several people.
1) figure the reason for his actions
2) Decide What You want to do and things You want to change in your personal life
3) Make a list of What You want to change in that marriage.
4) write everything down so You dont forget any detail.
5) Select a Good day/time to have a conversation with him. It might be on a weekend He wont go to work or on a weekday evening when He is back from work, had his dinner and taken his shower
6) Get a grip on your emotions "today You wont cry or get angry, You are going to sit and have a conversation like a matured adult" If You cannot control yourself and act matured then you cant possibly expect someone to take You seriously.
7) remember dont get angry remain calm. When You are both sitted tell him how You love him and want the best for your home, then calmly say how You feel, let it all out, everything You have written pour it all out.
When You are talking He should quietly listen and when He is talking also listen quietly so there wont be tantrums everywhere, when everyone is talking - no one is talking.
Have a great day
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