page 2 of the revenge

   i woke up in the middle of the night on this faithful day and found my clothes soaked with blood, hmmm yet another miscarriage. i couldnt be more upset and i could see the frustration in my husbands face when he screamed oh damn not again, but he still manage to suck it up and take me to the hospital, where they flushed out the remains, this really brought the worst side of me. i was so sick of the situation that i didnt let my husband touch me for a month, afterall what was the need of having sex, get pregnant and have another miscarriage. john was still the sweet loving man ive always known he tried to get me understand that all happens for the best, he tried to inspire me but i wasnt buying any of it even my work couldnt get me stop brooding, my husband would get me gifts n shower me with love, i wondered what sort of man is this? what sort of love was this, i drew closer and closer to GOD everyday, my situaion might disconnect me from people but it never disconnected me from GOD, i wanted to have a baby boy for my husband cos i know an igbo man without a son or an heir as they would say is nothing and a woman who hasnt given her husband a son is not yet setled in her home, i was always down, brooding and thinking. when my husband came back from work one day he came bak drunk, it was very unusual because i know my husband neither drinks nor smoke but he was smelling of ciggerates. i was suprised, upset and worried i tried getting some answers from him but it was useless because he was so intoxicated and couldnt even say reasonable things, so i managed to get him off his clothes, it then dawned on me that i am pushing my husband away with my new attitude, i loved my husband so much and wouldnt want to lose him just because of a miscarriage, so i made sure things went normal again. the plaza he was building for me was done by now and i started renting it out i also occupied one of the shops where i started selling provisions but i didnt save money, my husband always warns me to be saving and i wish i could but family problems kept coming, it would be one story to the other from my siblings even those that were in lagos always come bothering me and i couldnt say no, i decided to be giving the rents to my husband to be keeping thisway am sure it wont be spent, this family wahala kept going on i felt like i was the family bank and even my step mother that was in aba wen she heard about my husband she came asking him for money without my knowledge, she told him that she wanted to relocate to port harcourt and would want him to give her money to rent a room bacha in that place my parents were living and my husband gave him, i dont often agree with my step mother so it got me furious that she would go on such mission without even asking me, i complained to my father who asked me to forgive her. 
  on our daughters 4 year birthday on the november 13th we had a big party to celebrate it and i also had some goodnews of mine, i was pregnant again and this time i knew in my heart that it had come to stay, as my pregnancy was growing i noticed my husband always travels to the village he doesnt always tell me his extended family isssues, but this time i was determined to know so he informed me that he was building a house in the village and wanted to suprise me with it, i wasnt comfortable with this plan because i always get a bad vibe whenever i go to his village. it then hit me the dream i had some days ago about how i, my husband and precious were travelling and our vehicle got attacked by masquerades with machette i and precious escaped but john couldnt, i told this dream to him and he got scared because he knew my dreams always becomes reality, i asked him to fast with me so we can pray to GOD together as a family, during this seven day fast i would go to the church and pray, my little sister chisom 13 years came to visit me so she would take care of precious when she came back. on the 5th day of my fast as i got back home that evening i saw a crowd, people crying and some people telling me sorry, i didnt know what was happening but when i got into my house i saw my brother inlaws wives trying on my husband shoes and clothes while their wives were trying on my clothes some were even taking my daughters clothes it was mayhem, my 3box of wrappers were already not in the house anymore,i was shocked at what was going on and then i started yelling at them demanding an answer and when they saw me they started crying then one of his brother told me that my husband was dead. what?? dead? how? i think my world just shattered, i am finished i cried. oh my GOD why me, what am i going to do with myself now, JESUS why did u forsake me words cant properly do justice to how i felt, its over for me was all that kept running through my mind

page 4 of the revenge

   emeka has been acting funny for a while now i dont even know what is wrong with him, when i try to question him he tells me there is nothing and i got even more curious. he was no longer his normal self always moody. so on that faithful morning i decided to confront him and ask him what was happening and he finally opened up that some group of cult boys were threatening him and asking him to join them. i got scared and told him that i was going to report to the police and he plead with me that this guys were all from very rich homes, of course we didnt have money to fight police case but it was my duty to protect him so i asked him to stop going to the shop for a while maybe they will forget about him by the time he starts again. HE adhered and stayed at home for a period of one month then went back to the shop to start business again, the first day after resuming i asked him if he was disturbed he said no, i kept asking him same question for a month and he said that they have stopped harrasing him, i couldnt be more happier but the problem was he now always come back home late.. on a saturday morning aroubd 3am in the morning he came home breathing heavily and panting like someone who just ran a marathon with wounds all over his back, a thousand thoughts ran through my mind as he fell on my body, i held him, he was crying and breahtless. what happened  please tell me what happened i said on the top of my voice with tears running down my eyes. chief bankole, chief bankole; he kept saying, yes chief bankole did what please talk... chief bankoles son haaaaa aunty chief bankoles son, cult, i went to  join because they never stopped disturbing me, they flogged me because they said it was part of their initiation process.. he said slowly like a dying man with tears running down his eyes, fear gripped me. emeka emeka emeka emeka please dont close your eyes tell me try and tell me exactly what happened pleaseeeeeee. he didnt say a word so i ran out to my street to call for help it was past 3am but i didnt care i just wanted to save my brother. i yelled help me, help me, somebody please anyone awake? i went from compound to compound knocking at peoples gate, please its ngozi my brother is dying please anyone with car help me,, i kept saying then few of my neighbour came out from their compounds and went with me to our house, mr priye the taxi driver brought his car so we could rush him to the hospital, but by the time we got to the house he was already cold and lifeless. i remember every detail everything, its been years yet it still hurt like a new wound  still hear his voices in my head calling me aunty aunty aunty. i was there i couldnt help him, it was in my arms he closed his eyes and never opened them..
    i didnt waste any time in rushing to the police station after he was cofirmed dead by the doctors and his remains deposited at the morgue. i was so stressed out and weak but i didnt care, i went to the police station to report the case and i told them that i wanted chief bankole's son arrested but immediately they heard the name they all started laughing, one of the officers asked me to go and meet the DpO, i entered the DPO's office and explained everything.. he shaked his head and asked me do you know who you are talking about? arresting any member of his family is out of the question, his son sells cocaine in the university, involed in many other criminal activities some which his father send him to, any police officer that tries to get them arrested either gets dead or transferred, please madam i have a family to take care of and i suggest you go and bury your brother and let this matter die off else you might also lose your life in the process. i was shocked at the utterance of this man i sat there for some minutes looking at him like a lost soul, tears dropping from my eyes, my heart was racing i felt like dying but i had a lot to live for and one of those reasons is to make sure my brothers muderer was brought to book. i informed my sister who was at her youth service and we started making arrangement for his burial,  my brothers death was really hard on me. you will never understand how i felt and how i still feel whenever i think of the way he died, it was the most painful thing i have ever been through, he was so young and ambitious and then some wicked men just cut him off. i was determined for REVENGE after his burial.

will you still be with your spouse If there were no kids?

most people get married just because they want to raise their own children especially here in Nigeria
Nigerian men are religious about children especially the male child and it gets me wondering and asking questions like what If there were to be some medical problems and your partner cant conceive or impregnate you, would you still be together?

children are important in marriages no doubt But it shouldnt be the main reason for marriage, some people finds out they are pregnant and ends up marrying the wrong person just because there is a baby in the middle

love is and should be the foundation of every marriage Not babies.
The children will grow up and leave and you and your spouse will be together alone, you need to be sure you are with someone you love and can tolerate their excesses.. we dont plan for evil to happen But What If you lose your children will the marriage still exist?

If you are single and about to go into marriage you should consider this and answer honestly to yourself . IF WE CANT HAVE KIDS OF OUR OWN ARE WE STILL GOING TO BE TOGETHER??

keep the fire burning

When was the last time you had a date night with your spouse? when was the last time you bought him/her flowers? a little romantic gestures can show your partner you still care and can keep a smile on their face for the whole day. Dont let the relationship get boring. so i was with a female friend today she is married but is now madly attracted to the electrician near them, she says he has great abs and recently started getting her gifts, she knows it is wrong but she loves it and she cant help how she feels. Then i asked her when was the last time she and her husband had some romantic alone time? She said it was in the first 2 years of her marriage that her husband bearly even stays home now and she no longer cares of fixing up the marriage all she wants now is out!!! There is no advise she can get from anywhere that can change her mind. YES the marriage has gotten that bad but i advised that before she walks out she should tell her husband how she feels and try to make it work at least for some exttra months, i asked her to write down all her feelings in a letter and give to her husband, she might want to leave believing the electrician might be the best way out but i have a belief that if the grass looks greener on the other side instead of jumping over how about watering your own plants to make it look better... Dont let your marriage get this bad always keep the charms and romance on and show your partner you care and truly appreciate them.

a new year and a new start for your love life

happy new year in advance to all my beautiful readersas we are stepping into the new year what are you plans for your relationship/marriage
yes just like every other job marriages and relationship needs commitment and hard work because they are full time jobs. 2013 might had brought up so many hurts and damages to your marriage or relationship and i know you are still hurting but you must not carry those grudges over to 2014, you need to talk it out with your partner, you need to express your feelings and get your new years resolution for your home. what habits has to stop and what habits do you need to see more often. sit with your partner and if possible you both should write down your feelings about each other. be open minded about it, accept critism and make changes where necessary. Remember   HOLD NOTHING BACK..
where is the relationship leading to, altar or heart break? what do you want out of this marriage forever or just for the fun of it? TALK IT ALL OUT dont carry it over

twilight saga

• okay i just watched twilight again, and whenever i watch this movie my imagination goes crazy, i start yearning for such love and i wonder is there a love like that, not vampire love oo hahaha, i mean human love is there a man or woman that can love that much, someone that can love with all they got.

wake up call for women (tough love )

we gotta stop blaming this men all the time some women are pure idiots, i remember someone posted about her satisfying her beau sexually and yet He likes sex pages and goes around chasing other women, If you think rotating 360degree for a man on bed will keep him then you must be a joke, why would a woman even live with a man that IS Not her husband, father or brother? infact i advise the guys to screw the life out of such stupid girls when you desperately move in with a guy to avoid other babes comin in and giving him the privilege of a husband what were you expecting? are u expecting me to buy data when i already get free data everyday?? .. i am tired of girls crying and playing the victim when they are always the stupid ones. it is Not by force to marry, women know this things are Not right, they know the guy IS a player yet they keep tolerating the crap; we might advise them and give it a week they will still go back to the moron just because they believe men are scarce... The desperate ones have made all women look desperate too that some guys will be giving you conditions for marriage like He IS doing you a favour.. and the single ones that sleeps with married men have given them so much wing that they could ask their wives silly questions like "EVEN IF AM CHEATING ON YOU DOES IT MATTER AFTERALL YOU ARE THE WOMAN THAT IS AT HOME" like seriously? women gotta change. until you stop compromising and start doing the right thing then you ARE always going to be treated bad. Teaching this men how to value women IS Not something only one woman can do, it IS something all women need to decide and stand their ground for because i might decide to remain principled and then my man meets some desperate lady out there willing to take his bullshits then He leaves me. If we dont stop this nonsense Now then it will only get worst, the way men treat women has only gotten worst from generations to generations and If it doesn't stop Now our daughters will suffer a much worst fate. If my post hurts you AM NOT SORRY

How to know If you are with the right one

lets cut long story short

To know/find the right one then you need to be the right one.

can there be love without trust?

when am in love, i love truly without expecting that love in return But i dont trust people.

Reason is i can only trust God, i dont trust humans with my heart because we are unpredictable.

i mean i promised myself Not to eat chocolates again and here i am eating a big bar of chocolate, If i cant keep my promise to my own body why should i trust anyone?

i accept people the way they are, with their flaws, i expect people to make mistakes, i dont see anyone as perfect.

am Not a know it all But this is just my opinion, I wont trust you and i wont judge you either, i see things differently and its possible to love without trust.

you cant force love

A man that wants to stay with you will stay and nothing can stop him.
But a man that doesn't want to stay nothing can change his mind, If you like turn 360 degree on bed and take his momma's recipes to make delicious meals for him. nothing can change his heart, women make mistakes by trying to do all they can in order for a man to love them, wake up sister you are only hurting yourself. when a man says he doesn't love you believe it dearie and save yourself the troubles.

dont make him/her just A friend

Having someone who cares for you is one of the most awesome feelings, someone you could tell anything, someone who will support your dreams and is always there to pick you up when you are down; hmmm we all somehow, somewhere, sometimes has/had this kind of person and what happened? we made them JUST A FRIEND :-) ..
a tip of the day next time If you are lucky enough to find such a person, never let go.

The house wife

the stay at home mom
she is a cook,a doctor, a nanny, a psychologist, a coach, a tutor, a maid what she can do is endless But she does it all and still stay glamorous. If she was getting paid for all her work then she should be earning millions by the year end, she loves unconditionally and sometimes she becomes a watch man who stays up all night to watch her sick child. lets show love to our loving mothers and wives

How to keep your man home

GET YOUR WORK DONE
Plan your tasks with
an eye on the clock.
Finish or interrupt
the man hour before he
is expected. Your
anguished cry, "Are
you home already?" is
not exactly a warm
welcome.
HAVED INNER READY
Plan ahead,even the
night before to have a
delicious meal, on
time. This is a way of
letting him know that
you have been thinking
about him and are
concerned about his
needs. Most men are
hungry when they come
home and the prospects
of a good meal are
part of the warm
welcome needed.
PREPARE YOURSELF
Take 15minutes to
rest so you will be
refreshed when he
arrives.This will
also make you happy to
see him instead of too
tired to care. Turn
off the worry and be
glad to be alive and
grateful for the man
who is going to walk
in. While you are
resting you can be
thinking about your
Fascinating Womanhood
assignment and all you
can do to make him
happy and give his
spirits a lift. When
you arise,take care
of your appearance.
Touch up your makeup,
put a ribbon in your
hair and be fresh
looking. He has just
been with a lot of
work-weary people. Be
a little gay and a
little more
interesting. His
boring day may need a
lift.
CLEARAWAY THE CLUTTER
Makeone last trip
through the main part
ofthe house just
before your husband
arrives, gathering up
school books, toys,
paper, etc.in a
bucket or waste basket
and put them in the
back bedroom for
sorting later. Then
run a dust cloth over
the tables. Your
husband will feel he
has reached a haven of
restand order and it
will give you a lift
too. Having the house
in order is an other
way of letting him
know that you care and
have planned for this
homecoming.
PREPARE THE CHILDREN
Take just a few
minutes to wash the
children's hands and
faces (iftheyare
small) comb their
hair, and if necessary
change their clothes.
They are little
treasure sand he would
like to see them look
the part.
MINIMIZE ALL NOISE
Especially give heed
to this if your
husband has to join
rush hour traffic. At
the time of his
arrival eliminate
noise of washer,
dryer, dishwasher or
vacuum. Try to
encourage the children
to be quiet at the
time of their father's
arrival. Let them be a
little noisy
before hand to get it
out of their system.
BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM
Greet him with a warm
smile and act glad to
see him.Tell him that
it is good to have him
home. This may make
his day worth while. If
there is any romance
left in you, he needs
it now.
SOMEDON'TS
Don't greet him
with problems
and complaints.
Solve the
problems you can
before he gets
home and save
those you must
discuss with him
until later in
the evening.
Also, don't
complain if he
is late for
dinner. Count
this as a minor
problem when
compared with
what he might
have gone
through that
day.
Don't allow the
children to rush
at him with
problems or
requests. Allow
them to briefly
greet their
father but save
demands for
later.
MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE
Have him lean back
into a comfortable
chair or suggest he
lie down in the
bedroom. Have a cool
or warm drink ready
for him.Arrange his
pillow and offer to
massage his neck and
shoulders and take off
his shoes. Don't
insist on this
however.Turn on music
if it is one of his
pleasures. Speak in a
soft, soothing,
pleasant voice. Allow
him to relax to
unwind.
LISTEN TO HIM
You may have a dozen
things to tell him,
but the moment of his
arrival is not the
time.Let him talk
first,then he will be
a more responsive
listener later.
MAKE THE EVENING HIS
Never complain if he
does not take you out
to dinner or to other
places of
entertainment.
Instead, try to
understand his world
of strain and
pressure,his need to
be home and to relax.
If he is crossor
irritable, neverfight
back. Again,try to
understand his world
of strain.
THE GOAL
Try to make your home
aplace of peace and
order where your
husband can renew
himself in body and
spirit.The nadd to
this the application
of all the principles
of Fascinating
Womanhood and your
husband will want to
come home.He will
rather be with you
than with anyone else
in the world and will
spend whatever time he
can possibly spare
with you.Try living
all of the serules for
his home coming and see
what happens.This is
the way to bring a man
home to your side,not
by pressure,
persuasion or moral
obligation.
( Helen B. Andelin's Fascinating
Womanhood, published by Pacific Press in
1965)

merry Christmas

a whole lot of chickens going down today awww such a pity :-(

:-) merry Christmas

violent home, violent kids, violent country

Real success is Not about having the most fancied cars, house and all that material things, to me real success are those things money cant buy, things like how proud your kids are of you and brag to their friends even If you are Not there or how your children teachers calls you to tell you how well behaved your kids are .. That is when you need to feel extremely proud of your work. But to raise kids in a way the world can testify that they are great kids, takes  love, unity, hardwork, commitment and determination...
These are things you will never find in a violent home that mummy and daddy swears on each other and exchange blows almost all the time.
This little ones look up to you, whatever you do they copy; you are their mini God: when mommy tells daddy FUCK you and daddy calls mommy a bitch be ready to receive a call from their class teacher the next day because He is so going to use those words.
If you as parents cant settle your differences amicably and live in peace for the sake of these children then you must get separated because VIOLENT HOMES RAISES VIOLENT KIDS and there are no rooms  for more violence in This world

Third parties in marriages

It amazes me that some people let others rule their home for some it could be their mother and others their father or any other family member they look up to. i know you love them right but you are married Now, face your family and let them face theirs
  

He is cheating you pick up the phone "hello mom i just found out He is cheating"
  she cooks bad, you pick up the phone "hey mom am on my way to the house my wife is a horrible cook"
i mean every single little issue of the family you pick up the phone and run to mommy or daddy. grow up its called a family and in primary school we were taught that a family is made up of
a father
a mother
and the children
The rest are called extended family.
let the family issue remain in the family. i know its very important to go to elders in times of troubles But let there be a limit, before you can involve a third party in your marriage be sure you both have tried sorting it out to no avail.

third parties are bad for the home

 

don't have kids If you can't take care of them

  In the past our grand parents used to say that children are wealth, the more you have the more your chances of getting rich and being happy are. lol its funny i mean so funny because you need wealth to bring up children, If you dont have the finances to bring them up the right way then they can never grow to become the millionaires you expect (fact).

  It even amazes me more that in this our present day most people are still taking that road, i was looking for a nanny/maid some months back and a friend of mine introduced me to a girl, she was 15 years old and i went to meet her mom to inquire and know why a 15 year old girl that should be in school wants to be a full time nanny/maid. when i got to their house the first thing that welcomed me was the smell of urine, faeces and many other smells. It was a room apartment (face me i face you) Then there were little kids playing everywhere, the first taught that came to my mind was "is she running a day care center in this disgusting place" then i asked her about the kids and she said they were all hers ooopppsss about 9kids in a 10 years marriage. This are the kind of women i like to call BMM "baby making machine"
it was none of my business But i couldn't help but ask why so much babies and she gave me the same reply grandma would had given me If i asked her why she had 11kids. Now 15 years Sharon(fake name) is her first daughter from her first marriage and at 15 she is already quitting school even If she was so brilliant is that supposed to be the way she will be a millionaire? okay to cut long story short i had pity on her and decided that she would stay with me and start high school the next term. a week later i started seeing Sharon vomiting oh oh. i checked her stomach and i saw little stretch marks, she was on the big side so its hard to tell If she was pregnant at first so i took her to the hospital and doctors confirmed she was pregnant, i called her mom to come to my house, when Sharon and i got home, i asked her who the father of the baby was and she said she didnt know ummmmm.

so i asked her how many men did she sleep with in the past 3months and she couldn't keep counts infact i was speechless and what happened next is history

But will you blame Sharon? her mom doesn't take care of her and she might have slept with some guys for some little snack change, its a pity how people keep bringing children they cant take care of to This world and make them go through hardship even the millionaires knows how hard it is to raise a child and most of them the highest number of kids you will see them having is 3. yet you see broke ass families with 10 11 kids.

stop bringing This children If you cant take care of them go for family planning please.

Never beg a cheat to stay

I will never understand why people whom are cheated on ends up begging the cheat to stay or stop the other affair bla bla

have some dignity my friend, no matter what you think IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOU ARE CHEATED ON. That decision to cheat and betray that relationship/marriage was a personal decision it was out of their own will.
They knew you would be hurt If you found out but they still cheated anyway.

Have some pride my dear, If you beg and this cheat stays then the cheating will never stop because you have giving him/her all the power and in their eyes you have lost all respect.

You need to set your standard Now, what you can tolerate and what you cant tolerate, no matter how much in love you are, they need to earn your trust that is If you are willing to take em back. You are too special and If your partner cant see that then they need to use the door. You cant keep getting hurt in the name of love.

A Good home cant be built on lies and deceit

I have seen some people tell their partner Not to worry that when they get married they will change. Haha Now that is impossible, whatever foundation you lay in your relationship will be permanent. If He cant stop loitering Now or she cant stop partying everyday Now while you both are still dating then expecting that change after marriage is close to impossible.

Some people will tell their partner their dreams and aspiration while dating and will get all the support they want But once the relationship blossom into marriage their spouse begin to say things like you cannot be an actress or you cannot be a lawyer, i cant support that But these are the same dreams He/she supported while you were dating and you begin to wonder What happened?? He/she was never in support of your dreams they just feel because marriage is said to be for better or worse so YOU cant get out and you will have to forget your dreams.

My point is: going into marriage with the mind of i can change him/her is a no no no If you really want that union to last, you cant build a Good home with deceit and lies, its Not right to lead someone on when you know its Not possible to take them all the way.
whatever must be changed should be changed Now, whatever must be said must be said Now, dont go into marriage with a lying tongue. Before you say I DO make sure both of you are on the same page, make sure there are no secret agendas.

stay blessed

learn to talk sex with your teens

Some parents forget they were once  teenagers the moment they have their own teens, YOU are going to tell them sex is bad, they will get pregnant and many more stories just to scare them But that wont change their minds If they really want to do it.

What you need is an open forum, where you educate them and tell them nothing But the truth about sex, teach them all you know. Also tell them the consequences (diseases&pregnancy) that might come If they decide to have sex as teens like But this time dont tell them like its a threat. Remember to tell them they are Not matured enough or financially empowered If any one of this consequences should arrive.

  If you are the Christian religious type then use the bible to teach them about What God says about What God says concerning premarital sex.

  lol i just remembered when i was a kid my mom said If a man touches me i will get pregnant, that scared me for a little while until i came across a pervert who told me all the wrong things about sex, He told me that If i have sex i wont be having menstrual pains again, that people will begin to respect me, He filled my head with so much nonsense that i wanted to have sex, the only thing that stopped me was my friend who told me how getting disvirgined was so painful.

I wouldn't had even given that pervert a listening ear If my mom had told me the truth about sex, Many little girls might have fallen for his trap, i was only 12 at that time. Your son might be getting the wrong lecture about sex from one sex starved miss out there or your little teenage daughter might just be so close to having sex with one pervert out there..

The ball is in your court!!

love

love is kind, love is gentle, love is patient, love has no ego, love is Not selfish and the best of all LOVE MAKES YOU FEEL COMPLETE.

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saving my home

Making it work
This is the hardest decision to make after being betrayed by someone you love, you feel you might never forgive or trust them again But before you decide to walk away, THINK and REFLECT on the beautiful times together, the sweet times, those moments you think of and start smiling, remember that day you said for better and for worse? there is no justifiable reason for cheating YES. But before you pack your bags and walk away answer This question truthfully If possible make a list IS THERE ANYTHING STILL WORTH SAVING??

own up to your faults

cheating is a choice, when you are caught do
yourself a favour and dont play the blame game,
even If your partner was at fault somehow its still
Not a Good enough reason to cheat you should
had talked it out, the time you use in spending
with the person you are cheating with should had
been used cementing your marriage or
relationship .. I know its going to hurt your
partner knowing the whole truth But you just have
to say the whole truth to avoid future damage and
prolonged recovery in your relationship.

Why men cheat

TOP REASONS MEN CHEAT

It will shock you to know that sex isn’t one of them

NOT BEING APPRECIATED

some women can destroy a mans self esteem ehnn, always comparing him to Mr Eric that just bought Mrs Eric a car, you make him feel like He is never doing enough, then He goes to the office and finds Caroline that praises him wow you are so hardworking, How do you do it? 

NAGGING

hehehehe This one will just keep him permanent in Caroline's house, men are really emotional. Yes they are, the only thing is that men are really good in hiding their feelings, they pile it up and try to be strong about it but when he comes home to relax after a stressful day at work you start yelling, you cant shut up and ignore somethings your mouth runs faster than a tap. 

DISORGANIZATION

He got attracted to you and fell in love with you for a reason, What happened to that woman He fell in love with? Yes i mean the sexy one that always puts on sexy shorts and makes her hair, always neat, her nails are spotless Now What He is seeing is a woman who looks like a wolf long nails, tattered hair always has wrapper wrapped around her chest please my dear support that breast, bra is not expensive Caroline is always on top of her game

STUBBORNESS

He talks one you and you had already dropped ten, He says sit down and you say shut up “i say shut up because u married me is that why you think you can boss me around what a man can do a woman can do better” You never listen to him. Hahahaha say goodbye to your husband in case you dont know caro is single, desperate and can even kneel down just to tell him welcome. 

LACK OF ATTENTION

i know you are busy with the kids i know you are busy with the kids but men needs attention even more than women , they are like big babies. When He comes back from work do you sit and talk about his day? What do you even know about his job? did u notice the shirt He wore to the office today? did you tell him He looks Good? Ummm caro is always ready, “sup honey damn u look smashing today How was your night?.. 

PS: all This grammar are nonsense If u have a chronic womanizer for a husband

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holy or happy?

1Corinthians 7:2 i quote "since sexual
immorality is occurring each man should have sex
with his wife and each woman with her husband" it
has different translation though But this is the
translation i understood it as "what If MARRIAGE
was meant to make us holy than happy, read that
chapter carefully, and consider this what If God
saw beyond Adams happiness, when you are
married you learn to share, sacrifice, it makes you
less selfish and greedy, you must learn to forgive,
it keeps you away from sexual immorality, what If
MARRIAGE was just part of God's plans to make us
like Christ?? I believe marital problems are just a test of faith that is why i always advice people MARRIAGE is Not a place to rush in
just because you want kids or the society feels
your old enough or your friends and siblings are tying the knot  #its_serious_business..

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Rip Mandela

To a great man, role model, hero, freedom fighter. Finally He is free from the pains of This world. We love you TATA

Lmao

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hold on i need to laugh

RIP

Let me just say Rest in peace to a very Good man, paul walker i will miss you on my screen But God knows best, we might Not be able to see your body again But we will always have your memories, the lives you have touched will always have you at heart and your Good legacy will spread on and live on..

A home and a country

Husband love and protect your wives just like Christ loves the church that He sacrificed his life for it, wife be submissive unto your husband for He is the head.

This is where most MARRIAGE problems start, The man wants to always take control Not withstanding his wife's feelings because He feels___ that is how it should be, He pushes her around. Even Christ demonstrated that as  the head you should also serve, He washed his disciples feet didnt He?

When you come unto her too strong and always wanting to win at every argument just remember that a bad leader is only going to cause rebellion in the society..

I tell people that a home and a country have a lot in common, THe husband is the president and his orders goes But Now when the president makes bad decision and dont care about what his citizens say what happens?? They begin to riot & rebel because they cant stand the injustice.

This is how MARRIAGE is, it is hard to find a woman that can submit to the leadership of a violent and selfish man who gives her no regard

You show her love, care for her, protect her and make her feel safe with you Now what normal woman wont want to submit to the authority of a Good man??

Forgiveness

Its very hard to let go and forgive after being hurt by someone you love, you are trying But each time you try the image of that incident flash in your mind. Its extremely  hard But here are 2 things that might help

1) Understand that we are all humans, we mess up, being hurt is expected i mean nobody is perfect. No matter how bad you feel you can never change what happened and holding grudge holds you back from God's blessings  Let go of the grudge so God will let go off your blessings.

2) whenever the image of that hurt comes to your mind, distract yourself , do something else, get busy.

#life is beautiful so be happy

Be happy in your body

This is the worst case of denial, there are things that just shouldnt be done, i actually believe big is sexy, confidence is sexy, wearing things that are way smaller than your size is just a no no, nobody will ever take you serious and if you feel people are staring because you look good then you gotta be kidding me. They are staring for all the wrong reasons like___________ you look scary/insane/junky ummm name them, if you dont like how you look then hit the gym. Small clothes dont make you look smaller they make you look much more bigger but when you wear a dress that fits perfectly and in all the right places it hides some couple of pounds. Big is sexy!!!! Dress to be addressed
You are special and beautiful

Live for you

Most people have spent all their life pleasing people and not actually doing what they would love to do. So i begin to wonder how can you ever be happy living someone else`s life??