I have seen some people tell their partner Not to worry that when they get married they will change. Haha Now that is impossible, whatever foundation you lay in your relationship will be permanent. If He cant stop loitering Now or she cant stop partying everyday Now while you both are still dating then expecting that change after marriage is close to impossible.
Some people will tell their partner their dreams and aspiration while dating and will get all the support they want But once the relationship blossom into marriage their spouse begin to say things like you cannot be an actress or you cannot be a lawyer, i cant support that But these are the same dreams He/she supported while you were dating and you begin to wonder What happened?? He/she was never in support of your dreams they just feel because marriage is said to be for better or worse so YOU cant get out and you will have to forget your dreams.
My point is: going into marriage with the mind of i can change him/her is a no no no If you really want that union to last, you cant build a Good home with deceit and lies, its Not right to lead someone on when you know its Not possible to take them all the way.
whatever must be changed should be changed Now, whatever must be said must be said Now, dont go into marriage with a lying tongue. Before you say I DO make sure both of you are on the same page, make sure there are no secret agendas.
stay blessed
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